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"I want, I need, I must have"
Helping our daughters to be content
Recently on our drive home from a play date, "Mooki" was in the back seat sulking. Our dear friends, whose house we had just left, had made a decision to let their 8 year old daughter have a cell phone. "Mooki" was in her "I want, I need, I must have" mode. "Mommy, I really want a cell phone too", she said. I responded with "No honey, there is no need for you to have your own phone yet", then came the, "That's not fair, ALL my friends have phones". (Uh...not quite)
It would have been so easy for me to put my foot down and say, "I said NO and that is the end of this conversation, do not bring it up again", but I didn't do that. I really tried to listen to her, ask lots of questions, and get to the root issues going on in her heart. As our conversation continued, she finally admitted feeling jealous. I was able to validate her, be understanding of how she was feeling, and also use that moment to teach contentment.
Why do they believe their little friends seem to have "way cooler" toys, "way cuter" clothes, and "way more" dolls? Even us mom's can battle those thoughts too (I'll be addressing this more next week!). It's so vital that we examine our own hearts and see if there are jealous thoughts in there. If so, we need to confess those areas to the Lord and seek contentment. We have to be that example to our girls.
Why does the grass always seem greener on the other side?
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I was reading in my Bible recently out of Exodus 35 & 36. Moses had asked the Israelites to give of their personal belongings to help build the Lords Sanctuary. Exodus 35:29 says, "So the people of Israel—every man and woman who was eager to help in the work the LORD had given them through Moses—brought their gifts and gave them freely to the LORD." After the people had brought their materials, Bezalel, the craftsman chosen to do the work came to Moses and in Exodus 36:5 said, “The people have given more than enough materials to complete the job the LORD has commanded us to do!” They went above and beyond for the Lord.
My desire is for my girls to have an eagerness to give, and not just give the bare minimum, but to go above and beyond for the Lord. Almost a year ago "Mooki" began begging for an American Girl doll (which cost $100). I helped her come up with a plan to earn the money. She ended up earning $200+ by making and selling small bags. When we arrived at the American Girl doll store, "Mookie" turned to "Lover Girl" and announced that she was also buying her a doll! I was one proud mama in that moment. What an awesome act of kindness, generosity, and an eagerness to give!
I'm sure I am going to have many more, "I want, I need, I must have" conversations with my girls. In the long run though, I pray my girls grow up to be women of influence for the things of God and to have huge impact in this world!
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Things we do to help instill contentment:
Dancing Through The Seasons - Week 1
Dancing Through The Season - Week 2
Dancing Through The Seasons - Week 3